Life As A Grown Up Woman (Girl)

When you want to blog but you feel like, no, I need to have some me time, no blog for awhile, so, I guess that's the reason I didn't blog for awhile. My mind is so messed up that I couldn't focus on blogging. I miss being a kid, which you wouldn't need to think anything else other than playing with your toys and what not. Err, life as a grown up woman? Can I say, grown up girl? Because I didn't feel like I'm going to be 26 this year. hihi 😂😋

There are too many freaking things you need to face when you have grown up that sometimes you feel that, it is so exhausted of things happened around you, and it makes you want to just quit whatever you are currently doing and do things that you love instead. But, life ain't easy, nowadays. You have to think a lot of things before you make your decision to do it.

When I was still in school, I mean, in university, I didn't really feel, anything that pressuring me too much except doing assignments and doing your final year thesis and of course, some life drama (you know what I mean, right?). But, once, I'm done with studies, when I get a job, dang! This is the time, when you really really do understand, the struggle to earn money, to put aside some money and how to use it wisely. 📝
It is hard. I didn't brag it or whatever, but that is reality, even before you got a job, to find a job itself, its damn struggle. You have to go for interview one after another, just to get a job. It ain't easy, man. Its very tiring but it is worth it, when you finally secure a stable job and then, you have to maintain job performance and what not. 💪

That's one thing, about job. So, when you got your monthly salary, now, you have to think about how to use it wisely. You have to make your own budget on what should you pay first (cars/bills/house rents/study loan/etc), buy some groceries, put aside money for your parents and then you can see, how money left after doing those things, and then, you can decide either to keep it or for you to spend some money on things you like. See what I mean? Well, to show the details of how I use my salary every month, it might be different between you and me, right? 

Anyway, whatever I have ramble in this post, its my own point of view as a single lady, not as a married women, because I'm not. lol Speaking of that, have you put aside some money for your marriage purposes? Not going in to that details, by the way, just asking hiks

Being the first child in the family, first grandchild, goodness, the pressure are just beyond your imagination. Am I too over exaggerate that? lol I want to further my studies to the higher level, probably by this year. The most sad things is that I have to withdraw my application from two university in Australia and one in UK, just because, I didn't get any scholarship! Gosh! Nevertheless, I will further it soon, insha Allah. Do you want me to do a post on how to further your studies abroad? If you want, then do tell me. 😘

Anyhow, back to the stories, I just want to give you the overview of what will us encounter when we grown up. This is a teeny, tiny bit of what I've experience in my life, its definitely not going to be the same at all. Get it? I hope I have clear it on that part.

p/s : Now, one of the thing make me sad, apart from this kind of struggles, whatever, I'm so freaking sad, that I couldn't purchase my templates using my paypal, because I didn't link it with my bank card. lol Do I have too link it before proceed to purchase? Can I just not? Can somebody help me? Can I just wire my paypal balance to any of you, who are expert in this to help me to purchase the template that I want? If not, this will frustrate me even more. 😭😩

Anyway, how's your life going on, right now? Have you baking anything, this week? Because I miss baking.


LdyNisa said…
totally get what u mean, life as an adult is very different and challenging. oh do share how to further study abroad because right now im considering it :D
Eyqa Zq said…
Fatina about the paypal purchases, you just need to add ur bank debit/credit card and walla it works like magic. its was a simple step no worry just google it. In case you still cant purchase after you linked it, it must be bcause our local card need permission for outside country buying. why dont u ask erin she had say something about she can help in purchasing template. :D

Fatinaa. i feel you, and now it was 10th of february and Im already broke. hahaha.
Lya Amie said…
I'd love it if you could do a post on how to study abroad coz I'm planning on applying. It's impressive that you got few offers!

I totally can relate. I was wrong when I thought I'd be spending money on shopping or travelling once I got a job. Turned out, bills and debts I need to pay took half of my salary and with such few money left, I'm still not a good at saving, lol
FatinaMdzfr said…
I will do it soon on how to further your study abroad :)
FatinaMdzfr said…
I see, so, I still need to link it, I guess I have too hukhuk T_T

Kannnnn, OMG! It just 10th February andddd now what, the sadness of couldn't buy a book. I guess I'm on book buying ban, right now. Its hard. #icry
FatinaMdzfr said…
Yup, because I'm so eager to do my master overseas, even my parents want me to further study abroad but its hard to secure scholarship, 'cause I don't want to stuck on study loan. T_T But no worries, will be more than happy to do a post on how to further study abroad soon, insha Allah <3

Goodness, I am so agreed with you. That what was I thought when I start working but nayyy, need to spend on the priority list, first. ergh
Claudia Claudy said…
Can we just be a grown up, be free without all the responsibility? It's so tiring but well life must go on they said.
I totally can relate about the money. I made my yearly cash flow to track my spending and how much I saved which I update bi-weekly or actually, almost everyday. And i'm tired to do that, but I need to make sure I'm on track.
Eyqa Zq said…
Samalah kita. huargghhhhh.
Ana Fatihah said…
Before this in secondary school and degree life, I almost never got stress about money because I got a scholarship. But, when I continue my study in master. I start to change my lifestyle. No more boros2 and yes I need to find money with my own effort. It's really a struggle for me, but it also a lifelesson. So, be positive!
FatinaMdzfr said…
That's what I want, can we just be free from all this responsibility that keep on messing up our head every single month?
I did that too but sometimes I was so tired and got freaking up that I don't want to see mine T_T
FatinaMdzfr said…
couldn't agree more with you :)
anyway, where do you pursue your master?
Fairuz Aqilah said…
I'm currently at the stage of finding a decent job, attending interviews and sending out tonnessssss of applications blablabla. It's sooooo frustrated knowing how difficult to get a decent job nowadays. PTPTN lagi nak kena bayar. Haiihhh... Bertabahlah, wahai diri! Erm, about your lassstttt question. Well, honestly, I was not born to bake. Choc chip cookies jadi batu, inikan pulak cakes. Malu nak cerita. Bhahahahaha... :'D
Ana Fatihah said…
Master in Malaysia. Hihi
IIUM,Gombak :)
atheera dayana said…
I feel you dear.
The struggle is not what you hear, when you are dealing with the struggles then you will realise how hard it is. I have come to a stage where i have to cut down every money i spent on shopping, spent more time to relax myself on weekend and enjoy whatever comes. Do not sweat!

For the paypal thing, i think you need to activate your bank card for international transaction. Previously i did send a message via maybank facebook, then they called me. After that voila, I already can purchase through etsy.
FatinaMdzfr said…
i see, that's amazing :)
May you succeed in your Master journey :) <3
FatinaMdzfr said…
I know righttttt, to find a decent job, its a hell of finding it and even secure itttt. lagi lagi zaman sekarang stresss sangat T_T
Fatin fail buat cakeeeeee, hehe uish ganas tu cookies jadi batuu hehe boleh improve lagi nii hehe
FatinaMdzfr said…
The struggle it just beyond our imagination could hold. Very stressful. Hopefully, we all could get through it every day in our life, insha Allah :)

Tuhlah, I'm waiting for the bank to approve it. hehe Thank you for the help, tyra! :)
nadiah izzaty said…
I feel you dear , especially on the beginning of this post you mention no blog for a while need a me time. Lately , Nadia jrg update post selalu. Draft je bnyk2 hahaha

Nak tahuuuu how to further study abroad tue. Share pleaseee. Wishlist nak further study dkt Uk sebab tgk my brother smbg belajar sana mcm best jeeee tapi dia share experience bukan lah best 100% yang dilihat. Ada ups and downs be a muslim student in a non muslim country. Tapi , experience tue yang mahal kan . =)

I'm not baking anything sebab tak pandai bake. Reti makan je hahaha
FatinaMdzfr said…
kan sama, bila rasa demotivated, hmm tengok blog pun rasa pening dah hehe :p

Insha Allah, fatin post dalam blog ni sooon tauu hehe :D betul, orang hanya nampak luaran, tak nampak apa yang kita hadapi sebenarnya bila duduk sana kan tapi pengalaman lah yang paling mahal sekali kan :D

hehe Fatin nak masuk kelas baking semata-mata nak belajar bake cake sebab cake selalu fail T__T tapi makan cake Fatin paling handal jugak :p
Hanis Amanina said…
Life is a progress. We improve ourselves everyday, kan? :) I can't believe I am approaching 26 in few months. And that number can be rounded up into 30. Allahu, I hope I have a blessed number of age.

Since I am not working right now, I can still relate to your points of money. As I receive monthly allowance, I will always keep myself on track not to overspend. And even to save money to pay back my sponsorship. Yes, I will be in debt upon finishing my degree. Haha, not good to think about this anyway.

"put aside some money for your marriage purposes" I am now trying to have this part in my life plan. Huhu, as I am not that sure when will I get married but I always listen and read to experiences that this event costs a lot of money. T_T I wish I can just fulfill all the required stuffs to get married without spending too much on unnecessary adat thingy.